Dealing with divorce is always going to be a rocky experience for everyone involved, no matter how you try to prepare for it. Needless to say, the experience will also affect your children.
As parents, you want to do anything you can to ease this burden and make the transition through divorce as easy as possible. Can cooperation help smooth this path?
Sharing information and goals
According to Psychology Today, there is no right time to break news of divorce to your child. However, there are actions you can take and ways you can time it to allow your child an easier route to accepting it.
First, you want to aim for cooperation. Working together with your co-parent is actually one of the best ways to ensure that your child comes out of this situation with as little harm as possible. Share information. Plan your discussions ahead of time together. Work out what questions your child may ask and take steps toward preparing to answer them.
Do not split up. Do not try to meet with your child one-on-one. Do not deviate from your pre-discussed conversations. Do not interject with additional and potentially harmful information, just to get a jab in.
Approach in the best mood
You should also consider holding group conversations during a time when you and your co-parent have not had any recent arguments. Children often detect the stress, tension and anger that lingers after such run-ins. It might negatively affect the outcome of a conversation.
From here, you will likely have to figure out your best course of action on your own. But starting out with this information can pave the way to easier acceptance.